[Attention] Add FlashInfer Sparse MLA backend (#33451)

Signed-off-by: Matthew Bonanni <mbonanni@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Lucas Wilkinson <lwilkins@redhat.com>
Co-authored-by: Lucas Wilkinson <lwilkins@redhat.com>
Co-authored-by: Lucas Wilkinson <LucasWilkinson@users.noreply.github.com>

benchmarks/attention_benchmarks/configs/mla_mixed_batch.yaml

@@ -45,10 +45,10 @@ batch_specs:
   - "4q4k_60q1s4k"          # 4 prefill + 60 decode
 
 backends:
-  - cutlass_mla
-  - flashinfer_mla
-  - flashattn_mla   # Hopper only
-  - flashmla        # Hopper only
+  - CUTLASS_MLA
+  - FLASHINFER_MLA
+  - FLASH_ATTN_MLA   # Hopper only
+  - FLASHMLA         # Hopper only
 
 device: "cuda:0"
 repeats: 5